My berk has a special ringtone and WhatsApp message alert for his ex

Q

Dear Pearl, I am 17 and I want to know if I am just being silly. 

My boyfriend is the same age as me and we have been going out for three months. 

Maybe it’s nothing, but he has a special ringtone and WhatsApp message alert for his ex. When I call or message him, it’s just the normal tones.

Do you think there is still something going on between them? 

Should I be worried?

From KK.

A

Meisie, you are not giving Auntie a lot to work with here. 

But let’s see… why is this ou still in touch with his ex?

Auntie knows at that age it’s kwaai to vry in die bondel, and exes often stay friends. 

Maar ‘n ou kan mos nie heeltyd chat met sy ex nie.

It’s possiblehe simply does not even realise he has special ring tones for his ex. Have you asked him about it?

The basis of any relationship, no matter your age, is to communicate openly and honestly.

Don’t attack him, just ask why his ex has a special ring tone and that you don’t like it. He’ll probably just laugh and say: “Oops”, and take it off.

But if he wants to baklei and seems shifty, he might have something to hide and then you have to decide whether you still want this berk in your life.