My berk has a kid and got married

Q

Dear Auntie Pearl, I am 19 years old and I have a boyfriend who is now almost 24.

We’ve been going out for almost four months and he’s so much in love with me. 

I have a small job so I bought him stuff and also gave him some money because he asked me.

A few weeks ago I found out he has a kid, but I’m actually fine with it.

Then he went and got married.

I am so heartsore Auntie, I still love him.

How could he do this to me? 

A

Meisie, take a deep breath and listen to Auntie – this outjie has been playing you like a fiddle, soos die ou mense altyd gesê het. 

Sies, hy is lelik and how can he take you for a gat like this?

Listen to Auntie, lovey, he sounds like a total piece of rubbish, and you know what they say about vullis, ne?

You won’t  believe it now but you’ve actually dodged a bullet by this man showing you his true colours.

He was taking you for a gat, taking your money, taking your time and using you while he had another girl on the side, and then he had the bleddie cheek to even marry her? 

And while he also has a laaitie without telling you about him.

Imagine all the other things he could have been hiding from you? 

This guy doesn’t deserve one more second of your time. 

Now obviously you are hurting badly, but you need to keep your head above water and paddle the waves! 

You can thank your lucky stars that you were only involved with this versinne bra for a few months, and things were not more serious like babies and marriage.

Learn from this experience and don’t go spending your hard-earned kroon on a berk to try and win his heart. 

Rather spoil yourself or invest in something worthwhile, like a house or a car for yourself.

Don’t let this skomgat ruin your life, you are only 19 years old and you have a kwaai life ahead of you! 

Never speak to this guy again and never fall for his lies again – jy’s slimmer as dit, girl. 

It’s time to be a tough cookie, look after yourself and forget about this man.